Thursday, August 1, 2013

How an editor or agent is like a Human Resources Manager

I listened, with intense focus, to every word of wisdom falling from Nutschell Windsor's mouth about writing a query letter. (If you know what this is then you just groaned, maybe not out loud but your brain groaned.) Then as I scribbled the last note and sat poised, ready to absorb more valuable information, it occurred to me that the foibles and quirks of the very busy agents she was discussing were all of my pet-peeves when I am at work as an HR Manager.

I am supremely busy.  I get unsolicited calls, letters, emails and faxes daily from people who want me to hire them.

If I make sure to avoid all the common mistakes that people make when searching for a job then at least the agent or editor will look at my query letter and not trash it immediately- as I do with numerous resumes.

Here are the most common mistakes I see in HR and how they would apply to a query letter.

  • Don't apply for a job we don't have
My company hires office employees.  I do not need a cook, a sanitation worker or a contractor, thank you.
Make sure that the agent/editor you are reaching out to actually produces your genre.  You wouldn't send Harlequin Romance a non-fiction book about the cold war.

  • Do not call me with music or the TV blaring in the background and without a pen and paper handy
I am assaulted by loud music and television shows daily by people who call me looking for a job.  I have a hard time hearing them and frankly want to hang up instantly. (I also judge them based on what they are watching/listening to; any yelling talk show in the background and they go right to the bottom of my list.)

Act professionally be prepared for the call you just made to me, whose valuable time you are consuming, by having a pen and paper ready, being in a quiet space, asking insightful questions.  Do not tell me information I already know, for example: it says on your website to send resumes to for this job but I wanted to see if there was a way I can just come interview now.  Now I am upset that you saw the ad posted, saw the website requirement and decided to ignore it completely.  Do you think I will hire people who reach out to me for a job doing any of these unprofessional things?

If you approach an agent/editor with a call first please follow the bullet point above.  If you reach out with a query letter be prepared to hear back from them.  Have your manuscript ready to go, if the whole thing is not complete at least have your perfect first chapter ready to go.  Be prepared to succinctly describe your novel in only a few enticing sentences.  If they catch you off guard or at a bad time be as polite as possible, explain that you would love to speak with them and agree on a time that you can call them back.  Be sure to get their contact information.

  • Have a professional email address
It is important to set up an email address that represents you as an author, not you as a mom, druggie, lush, pedophile, etc.  Seriously- I get emails from Daddy, skirtchaser, colt145mugs, unklfrankie, and worse.  None of these makes me want to hire you and the same would go for an agent.  They want to represent someone who is professional and reliable and if your email says otherwise they may stay away.  Be sure to link this email or check it regularly so you don't miss their response!

  • Do have correct contact information on your query letter
This seems so obvious.  But for every 10 resumes I receive 1 that doesn't have contact information at all or the phone number listed is out of service.

If you are really serious about an agent/editor picking you up you should have an email with your author name as well as any other social media you can handle, Facebook, a blog, twitter, etc. and list this information as well so the agent can see that you are serious about your writing and have already started creating a marketing platform for your work.

  • Check your work and your email for spelling errors

Make sure to turn spell check on in your email or craft your email in Word and copy paste it into the body of your email.  No one will take a writer seriously with spelling and/or major grammatical errors in your email, query letter or your manuscript sample.

I won't hire a person with mistakes like this on their resume I am sure an editor/agent will feel the same way.

  • Do research your agent/editor and meet all their posted requirements
Every editor/agent has their own requirements of what they want to receive with your query letter and how they want to receive it; regular mail, email only, first 10 pages, first chapter, whole manuscript, etc.  Please be sure to customize your letters to the right person and send it with exactly what they asked for in the way they want it.

I always request specific items when I post a job; following basic instructions is very important in my employees day to day work and so is being detail oriented.  If they cannot send a salary history or put the job code in the email subject line as requested that knocks them out of the first round of candidates immediately.

  • Don't send your email or query letter without the required attachments
We have all hit send on an email or sealed a letter and realized we forgot the attachment or to put something in the envelope.  Double and triple check that you have everything your desired agent/editor requires before hitting send or dropping it in the post.

When you submit to an editor or an agent you are applying for a job.   You always present the best you possible in an interview, well your query letter is your interview and you need to be as professional as possible in your communication with your desired agent or editor.  Use professional formatting, fonts, language and meet all their requirements.  If you don't do the query letter right, no matter how amazing your writing is, they may never get to it.  With a good query letter and writing sample hopefully they will be scrambling to call you or respond to your email.

Now go out there, put your professional foot-forward, and knock 'em dead!

Saturday, July 27, 2013

The Community of Writers

I am in love with the community of writers, and so happy to be a part of this esteemed group.

As a community I have never been a part of any group where everyone was so helpful, open and giving of themselves and their time.  No one is stingy with their knowledge, in fact the second we learn something we all want to share it with others.

Last week I went to a seminar about revisions hosted by CBW-LA.  Carmen Rodrigues was the speaker and she unselfishly shared her knowledge of what it takes to get her books ready for publication.
Today I am going to a critique session for query letters.  I can't wait to hear honest and helpful opinions on my letter.

Samantha Combs has great information on her blog about writing query letters.  She is a wonderful speaker I highly recommend seeing her if you have the opportunity.

It may be hard to be published but I am having so much fun writing and learning with the most wonderful group of people I have ever met- I don't mind the time or effort it is going to take to get there.

Thank you to everyone who has helped me so far!

Nutschell Windsor -
Samantha Combs -
Children's Book Writers of Los Angeles -  Everyone is this group is amazing.
Linda Pierce
Diane Sepulveda Robinson
Susana Montano
Joanie Harmon
Lynne M
Carmen Rodrigues -
Arlee Bird -

Keep writing, sharing and growing!

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Writing Errors

I have been in full edit mode on my novel.  I recently learned something, accidentally, that has been very valuable in assisting me with my editing.

Everyone kept telling me to read writers I liked, good writers and learn from them.  I recently read a book that was not well written or edited and it was the most helpful thing I could have done.  This was as surprising to me as it is to you.

Throughout the book the author changed points of view (POV) within paragraphs in each chapter, had dialogue in the middle of paragraphs and had dialogue that was not tagged so it was difficult to discern the speaker.

After completing my rough draft of my wonderful novel on my first edit I noticed that, as this author did, I loved to change POV.  I picked this up as an issue and fixed it, I will admit, grudgingly because when I read my novel, the one that I lovingly created and lived with I, of course, had no issues at all following along and knowing who was thinking what and who was talking.

That was the revelation of reading this book, which had a good story line and interesting characters, but all the mistakes in editing pulled me out of the story, made me re-read passages to figure out who was speaking or thinking and that took away from the story immensely.

Now I understand how important it is to clearly keep POV to one character and to be sure all dialogue is tagged properly.  When I read it in a story that I did not know by heart it was very difficult to follow and it can actually cause someone to stop reading my novel.

I am advocating that you go out and read a poorly edited book.  It helped me so much to take a step back from my story, see how a reader would see it and learn what does not work in telling a great story.  For example this book introduced a lot of characters who never re-appeared or if they did there was never any closure to their part of the story- I was left wondering why they were there at all or upset that I didn't find out what happened to that character who had been laced through out the book.

When I read a good author and a well edited book I get so caught up in the story that I do not notice the way the book is written- and that is how it should be.

I am sure you know that problem with self-publishing is that there are poorly edited and poorly written books mixed in with the good ones.  I took a stab at a free book to test out a genre that I have never read before and it turned out to be a blessing that I got a poorly edited and not so well written book.

If you want assistance editing your book I recommend finding a free book out there and with luck it will help you break through some writing and editing issues.

Happy writing!

Tuesday, April 30, 2013



There are zero letters left.  The A-Z challenge is now done. 

I had zero preparation when I joined this challenge.  Just a couple of days before it started I was lucky enough to attend a seminar with Arlee Bird, the founder of this challenge, he encouraged the attendees to join so here I am.  

Zero preparation, zero idea what I was getting into and zero to lose.

I started with zero followers and zero blogs that I was following and zero idea how to blog. 
I have gained followers, found great blogs that I am following and have at least a little idea of what I am doing now. 

Even though we are done with the challenge I will continue to go back to the list and try and hit as many of the blogs as I can. 

Congratulations to everyone who participated in the A - Z challenge.  We did it.

Thank you all for stopping by and for your comments.

Monday, April 29, 2013



I always hear people talking about “someday” for items they yearn for.  When is this someday?

It is great to have something that you earn for.  Don’t just leave it at that.  Plan for a way to make it a reality.  Research what you want and set a goal to obtain it or to make it happen. 

Wishing for someday maybe fun but it does not ensure that day will ever come or that you will ever get to experience or get what you yearn for.

Saturday, April 27, 2013



This was a tough one.  There isn't even a whole page of X words in the dictionary. The only letter I had to look in the dictionary for inspiration.

I thought of discussing the X chromosome but then found a word that I could actually write something I cared about.

Xeric adj. low or deficient in moisture for the support of life.  

I honestly Love water.  My thirst is never as quenched as when I drink water.

However I am thought unusual and my penchant for drinking water is not catching with my family, friends and co-workers.  But it should be.  Our bodies need water and many people do not drink enough.  In fact, many people confuse being thirsty with being hungry.

Please pay attention, keep a log if that is what you need to do, to how much water you drink.  You will most likely find that you are not drinking near enough- soda and coffee do not count.

When you think you are hungry drink a glass of water first.  If you still feel hungry then by all means eat.  You may realize that in some cases you were just thirsty.

Swap out some of your other drinks for water to make sure you at least get in the recommended allotment of  64 oz a day.  That is not a lot.  A bottle of water is a little more than two 8 oz glasses.

I hope that you learned a new word today, as I did, and that you will increase you water intake.


Friday, April 26, 2013



Everyone knows what their strengths are but few people examine their weaknesses.  Take time to work on the areas in which you are not confident.  Practice with friends, take a class, and join a group.  Most people have a fear of public speaking- join Toast Masters to gain this skill and make new friends.

Weaknesses are an opportunity for growth.   Why pass up an opportunity to challenge yourself?  The more you keep learning and growing the better off you are and the more interesting your life is.   Research shows this will help stave off Alzheimer’s as well.

What weakness are you going to work on?

I will be working on patience with my loved ones and organization.  

Thursday, April 25, 2013



Validation is something we all crave.  Unfortunately it is not something that we get enough of.

I have found that if you enjoy what you are doing and it makes you happy that can be validation enough.  It is still great to be given praise for the things you do or have someone validate your choice.

Find ways to validate what you do so that you don't need the outside validation since you can't count on someone else validating you or your choices.

You have to do what you do because you know it is right for you, not for anyone else.

Wednesday, April 24, 2013


Uniqueness and Unity

Excuse the generalization but as a whole we humans are not very accepting of uniqueness.  We should be accepting of the differences in others and in ourselves.  What makes us unique is usually where our strengths lie.

Accepting differences makes it easier for everyone to get along and for the people of the world to unify.  The sooner we all realize that we are one planet and that all the individual countries cannot fix the environmental problems until we work together then no real progress can be made.

Scientist Ken Caldeira was recently interviewed on NPR.  I found this snippet so incredibly astonishing.

But here's how Caldeira visualizes it: "If you were to compress the entire atmosphere so it was the density of water, it would only be 30 feet deep, so all the stuff we're throwing into the atmosphere, it's like we're throwing it into an ocean that's only 30 feet deep."
In fact, when you look at the chemistry of the oceans, the carbon dioxide is already making a measurable change. It reacts with seawater and turns into carbonic acid, and has made the oceans 30 percent more acidic than they were before the industrial revolution.
Doesn’t this make you want to act?  It does for me but we cannot do it on an individual basis.  

We have to unify and act as one family sharing the same home. 

Accept and embrace uniqueness and unify across cultures, countries, political parties and save our home.

Tuesday, April 23, 2013



I am a do it in a New York minute kind of gal.  I am always trying to move forward and get it done as quickly as possible.

Lately I have noticed that this rush towards a goal attitude may not always be the best path forward.   I have always negatively associated slow with old so have mindlessly rallied against slowing down.

Children are timid while they are learning new things and entering new situations.  They instinctively know this is the safest way to move forward.

Working with my safety department they have taught me the importance of progressing forward timidly and only when we are sure that it is safe.

I recently interviewed someone who gave me the best answer ever about stopping work if it seemed unsafe.  Everyone else (30+ interviewees) quickly said, “I would stop the work immediately.”   My star interviewee stated that he would assess the situation and only stop the work if stopping it would not put someone in immediate danger.  Again, the thoughtful, timid approach was the smartest option.

While this is counter intuitive for me I have learned that the best path forward may be the take the time to observe and thoughtfully choose what is best.

With ages comes wisdom, but only if you seek it.  I am constantly seeking growth.  I can’t help the getting older part.  I am just waiting to be old enough to say whatever I want and get away with it.

Monday, April 22, 2013



It is amazing how many negative effects lack of sleep has on your body.

We all know we do not perform our best when we are tired but aside from the obvious side effects we observe there are side effects that you may not be aware of.

Short term effects include forgetfulness, slow reaction time, lack of sex drive, and impaired judgment.

Long term effects include aging skin, symptoms of depression, increased risk of death, increased obesity and serious health problems.

The article in the link below describes 10 side effects due to lack of sleep; a few of which I have listed here.

Saturday, April 20, 2013


It is Friday night and I have spent all day listening to the events in Boston unfold and I am so happy that
the people of Boston can rest comfortably tonight and that they will hopefully get answers soon. Not
that there is any explanation that will make the horrible tragedy and senseless deaths any easier to

R is for rest, re-group and recover.

Boston is strong and a wonderful city that is very near and dear to my heart. I know that Bostonians will
pull together and recover and be stronger than ever. New Englanders are so proud of who they are and
this tragedy will not shake their strong roots and beliefs. All my thoughts and prayers are with everyone
in my beloved home.

Friday, April 19, 2013



Quell the negative thoughts in your brain.  We are our own worst critics. 

Take the time to pay attention to how often you are negative about yourself in your thoughts and make a concerted effort to stop the negative thoughts.  Consciously replace them with positive thoughts.

You will be more productive and definitely happier when you quell the negative thoughts that sabotage you.

Thursday, April 18, 2013



I struggle with patience all the time.  Sadly I find that I am least patient with the people closest to me, the people who deserve it most.  I seem to save my best behavior for strangers and not for the people I love.  Does anyone else have this same issue?

Being patient with someone, especially your children, shows them that you care and that they are important to you.

I find it helpful to try and be on company behavior even when there is no company around.  I also remember the wonderful patience my grandmother had and try and model that behavior.
It is easier to do the right thing first than it is to apologize later. 

Wednesday, April 17, 2013



Most of our communication is non-verbal.  (Hard to admit for a writer in love with the spoken and written word.)  We all know how important it is to listen to others, although we probably don't practice that skill as much as we should.  It is equally important to observe others non-verbal cues.

For instance, my husband doesn't usually pick up on the cold tone in my voice but when I sit on the other couch he knows that I am upset with him.

I know that there are many times I hold my tongue and what I am not saying is far more telling than what I did.  For instance, I can't ignore that my girlfriend died her hair or got a new tattoo but when I don't gush over it and try to avoid eye contact or looking at it then you have plenty of non-verbal cues that tell you how I really feel but that I am keeping my opinion to myself.

Taking a moment to learn non-verbal cues can help avoid misunderstandings and sometimes putting your foot in your mouth.  I know it has helped me plenty with a previous boss.

[11 letters left fellow A-Z challengers!  We are doing great.  Keep it up.  Almost there.]

Tuesday, April 16, 2013



Most people are excited by new, new phone, new car, new clothes.  When it comes to trying something new, new route home, new food, new skill, the excitement is replaced by resistance and sometimes anxiety.

Trying something new is a great way to expand your skill set, discover something you may wonder how you lived without, and it is also shown to help ward off Alzheimer’s and memory loss.

Try something new today.  Keep an open mind and go for it.

So you know I am taking my own advice.  I got two people at work to try my seaweed salad at lunch!  Yeah for them for being adventurous and trying something new.

Monday, April 15, 2013


McDonalds- well all fast food

McDonalds is singled out because they are the original fast food and start with the letter of the day but this post applies to all fast food. 

I have two children, work full time, and my kids have homework and sports.  I know how challenging it can be to get food on the table at night.   

To stay away for the unhealthy choice of fast food I try to plan ahead.  I will make a large meal on the night we don’t have a sports event so we will have leftovers for the night we do.   If that fails then I always have a frozen meal available just in case I need something quick.  I also have soup and sandwich ingredients on hand at all times.  These packaged products are not the best options, due to sodium content, but I can pair them with healthy sides, not French fries, when we are at home. 

The kids can also get their homework out and started while I make dinner- time that would have been lost at a fast food restaurant.

I don’t ban fast food because I don’t want my kids to crave it and we don’t go there on special occasions so they won’t think of it as a treat.  We will go once a month but as they have outgrown the happy meal so have they stopped asking to go.  We still go to In-N-Out but I feel better about their food quality. 

Think about the food choices you are making and the habits you are instilling in your children.  The less you eat fast food the better for your health.

Sunday, April 14, 2013

I realize that K has gone by and I already posted one but it was not the original K I had planned to post so I am posting the original K on our day off.


Why do we focus on the negative?  Make a concerted effort to find the positive and give kudos to the people around you.  

We all know how great it feels to be recognized so why don’t we make the effort to recognize others? 

If you have children encourage them positively by giving them kudos for a job well done, for their efforts on a new our difficult task.  Don’t forget about your spouse; you know they would appreciate your positive praise as well.

Friends, co-workers, service staff…spread the kudos and make someone’s day better.

Great job taking a minute for yourself and reading today's affirmation.  Keep it up!

Saturday, April 13, 2013



 I have so much daily responsibility, work, writing, raising my children, feeding my family, cleaning the house, washing clothes…the list could go on for pages, I tend to be focused on accomplishing all the tasks.  When I do this no one in our house is happy, least of all me.

I have to focus on relaxing and actually being in the moment with my children.  Asking how their day was and listening to their stories, not just asking if homework is done perfectly.  If the dishes don’t get done one day they will be there tomorrow.  Decide what is important and give that your precious attention.

For my family it is levity.  Making sure we have fun together makes my children more open with me when it comes to sharing their feelings and information about their friends and their days.  Having that open line of communication will be very important as we reach their teen years.  Which are careening toward me at warp speed!

Have fun today!

Friday, April 12, 2013

Kismet or Karma
Fate or Free will.   Kismet is fate.  Karma is how your actions set in motion a cycle of cause and effect.
I have a hard time with fate.  Then why agonize over decisions if it is already fated?
I choose Karma.  I want to weigh the decisions I make and know that I am responsible for the events that follow.  I also believe that humans need something more to believe in.  A moral compass to guide them.  Many people ignore laws because they don’t see how they apply to them but with Karma everything you do has a direct impact on you.  You, the most important person in your world.  People pay a little more attention when they know that it will somehow affect them.  If the threat of Karma coming back to you in a bad way keeps someone from hurting others that is wonderful.   
Karma, in the common usage, also has a little more immediacy than waiting until your dead with the potential of Hell for eternity.  I think the fact that you could suffer now gives it a little more weight in day to day decisions.
Spread some good Karma today; even if you believe in Kismet.

Thursday, April 11, 2013



If you have to justify what you are doing then you should listen to your conscience.  You know, that little voice pulling at the corners of your brain for your attention.
I had an employee tell me that they would never act that way, while admitting that they did.  They would never behave like that ever.  Yet they did at work no less.  They then proceeded to blame everyone else involved for the incident.
The only thing you can control is your actions.  If you have to justify why you did something to yourself than maybe it is not something you should not be doing.
I justified the second chocolate with the sad excuse of my rough day.  I knew better the whole time I was doing it and didn’t take the time to stop myself.  Okay that is not a situation with serious ramifications but it is something we do every day.  If you get used to tuning out your little voice you may ignore it when you need it most.
By the way- that employee really lost me when others were blamed for their actions and they are in trouble.  I am trying not to divulge sex so this reads a bit weird but please understand my need for anonymity.

Wednesday, April 10, 2013



Innocence gets a bad rap. It is usually associated with ignorance or naiveté. I believe this is something
to be held on to. Children today are exposed to so many things before they should be. Take the time
and effort to protect your children from violence and sex. The ratings on movies and video games are
there for a reason. Limit the time kids spend watching and playing something that is violent or has adult
themes that you allow.

During an animated Easter special televised at 8 PM on ABC Family the commercials they showed were
completely inappropriate. They were scenes of a sexual nature. I recorded the show and told my
children we would watch it tomorrow. This way I was able to fast forward through the commercials that
I felt were not okay for them to watch- which is a real problem on ABC Family.

Once kids are exposed to things that are too mature for them it cannot be undone. If they are exposed
to something too mature for them make sure you discuss it with them and be understanding and
supportive if they have nightmares or ask questions that are tough to answer.

Tuesday, April 9, 2013


You thought I was going to go with Happy didn’t you? Well, without good health happiness is tough to
come by. Take time to go for your annual physicals. Make sure your family members do as well.

Preventative measures are important to good health. If you are a woman do breast self-exams regularly
and encourage your friends and family to do the same. Check out any unusual moles instead of
ignoring them.

Monday, April 8, 2013


It is important to be happy with what you have but many people don’t even realize how much they
have. We have been trained to focus on what we want, which is usually something you don’t have.
Once you acquire it you move on to the next thing you want and don’t appreciate the items you were
yearning for before.

Take time to think about all you have to be grateful for. If you actually write it down it will be a very
long list. Be amazed at how much you have and be grateful. Many of us have enough to share with
others who are in need and would be very grateful for the gifts they receive.

Saturday, April 6, 2013

Have fun every day.  Take time to relax and unwind.  Look for humor and enjoy it.  Find a person who makes you happy and spend a time with them.  Find an activity that makes you happy and carve out time for it. 
This sounds stupid, right?    I bet if you pay attention to your day you will realize you have a lot of days when you are so busy that you do not have fun.  

I came to this realization yesterday when my difficult work week came to a close and I had not had lunch with any of my friends or even had  a conversation with anyone that did not pertain to work.  I feel drained and depressed.  If I had actively taken time for fun I know I would not be in this state.

Enjoy your weekend! 

Friday, April 5, 2013

My favorite life movie is Harold and Maude. This movie has so many great quotes about life and living it to the fullest.    
Here is my favorite:
Scene set up:  Harold and Maude are in a field of flowers and Harold says he wants to be like the daisies that are all around them because they are all the same.
Maude: “Oooh, but they're not.  Look.  See, some are smaller, some are fatter, some grow to the left, some to the right, some even have lost some petals.  All kinds of observable differences.  You see, Harold, I feel that much of the world's sorrow comes from people who are this, [she points to a daisy] yet allow themselves be treated as that [she gestures to a field of daisies].”
We live in a world of mass marketing where we are always told to conform.  Don’t listen.  Be you, not everyone else. 

Thursday, April 4, 2013

Examine any doubts you have.  Consider if they are justified.  If they are not, dismiss them.  If they are, here is your opportunity to find a solution before they become an obstacle.

Dreams- Your goals not the ones you have while you sleep.

Dreams are not idle folly.  Dreams give me something to shoot for.  They are inspiring.
My dream to write and share all the stories running around in my head brought me to CBW-LA, an amazing writing group for Children, Middle Grade and Young Adult authors; and to their seminar with Arlee Bird.  That seminar led me here.  In the A-Z Challenge where I am learning a lot about the steps I need to achieve my goals to bring me closer to my inspiring dream of getting my manuscript published!

Reach for your dreams and enjoy every step along the path to achieving them. 

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Confidence is tough to have.  We all have a little voice in our head that strikes when we need it least  which eats away at our confidence.  It is important to focus on your achievements and cultivate your confidence.

Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Believe that you have the tools to accomplish what you want.  Having belief in yourself allows you to start the tasks you need to accomplish to reach your goals.

Monday, April 1, 2013

A – Z Daily Affirmations
Welcome to the A-Z challenge!
I was so excited by the A-Z challenge and tried to come up with a cohesive theme for the challenge before I started writing.   Arlee Bird said that there were, of course, letters that are a challenge like Q.  As soon as he said that I knew instantly what I wanted to write for Q.   (You’ll have to wait and see.) 
Once I wrote Q  I started working on the other letters I thought would be tough and once I started writing  a surprising theme emerged…Affirmations.
This was very surprising for me because if you said the word affirmations to me I would scoff at it and dismiss you as someone who needs a crutch.  But the more I wrote the more I realized that maybe I just have the wrong (Stuart Smalley, self-help book aisle) association with the word.  Everyone I know gets down on themselves and forgets how wonderful they are. 
I hope these 26 shots of encouragement and reminders will be helpful to everyone who reads them and the people around you; especially if you share them and put them into practice.

Applaud yourself for the efforts you make.  Not everything works out as planned but acknowledge the effort you put in and give yourself the praise you deserve.  Then evaluate the situation and try again.
Applaud others for their efforts as well to keep them engaged and positive.

Wednesday, January 23, 2013


I have very little time that is my own to do with as I wish.  Most of it seems to be in the car.  Yet even there I find the voice in my head telling me to listen to the news and see what happened today when I know the last thing I really want to hear is more information that I will find upsetting.

I have found that taking a slightly longer route home, one with less traffic and only a sigle lane so my brain isn't busy telling me to switch lanes because that one is moving ever so slightly faster, in complete silence has been the best gift I can give myself.

It is amazing to me how little time we have without noises vying for our attention.

I discovered the silence by accident.  This route travels the edge of the continent and has very bad radio reception.  I had just left a noisy house and when the static started I shut the radio off, something I don't think I had ever done in this car.

I enjoyed the scenery more and then my brain started telling me marvelous stories.  It unraveled mysteries of my life and opened the door for my creativity.

I cannot stress enough how important it is to take time for yourself to do something you love.  It is also important to take moments to unplug and listen to your brain and your body.  Try it, you'll see.